If something bad happens to you, you must have deserved it according to the just-world hypothesis. If you are bad, you will get reprimanded one day.
What did you do to upset him? You were robbed? What were you doing at night?
When faced with an authority figure, people can usually control their anger. How many people will shout at a boss? The consequences are swift. They will yell at people who are powerless to stop the verbal abuse.
The world is not fair. People tend to transfer their anger from one place to another. You can see this when a boss yells at a worker, and the worker takes it without a word of complaint, and then goes home and yells at his or her spouse and children.
It is not easy when someone walks in and flies off the handle, and I get blamed for it. This is different from an argument in which two parties are locked in disagreement The two people know why they are at odds. I can fix the problem if I caused it.
You will forget everything if that is the case. What they did did not happen. They are not sorry, they are sorry they might lose out on something. Two words don’t erase the effects of threats and tantrums.
When someone says or does something horrible, on purpose, then tries to backtrack, it’s almost worse. Things fall off shelves when they stomp their feet. They are raising their fists. When someone gets angry back or is shown the door, they say a quick apology.
This is an example of smashing a vase on the ground. Say, “I’m sorry.” Is that the reason the vase is broken? Absolutely not. The damage has been done
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